“I feel like once I have chosen an identity, or found myself, I will be accepted”


I’m sixteen. I am a female. Not entirely sure of everything else, but you know we’re getting there. I live in Shoreham, born in Brighton. I’m a Brightonian at heart.

I’ve always been fairly sure I’m a female. I like being girly. I’ve always been pretty girly. I remember being a child, wearing dresses.

As for sexuality, I guess I’m still on that journey. I sometimes think ‘Oh I’m this thing. Oh no, I’m this thing’ and I don’t want to have to make that decision. I feel a lot of pressure from people to be like ‘ Oh I’m part of this category’, but you know what, I’m just ‘I don’t care what you say. I’m just going to be myself and decide when I’m ready. There’s too many distractions at the moment.

Do you feel that society is open and accepting of your chosen identity, or your chosen non-identity?

I feel once I have chosen an identity, or found myself, I will be accepted because the people I’m around and the family I have are very very supportive, which is really nice. But currently not being sure of myself I think people are more sort of discomforted by that, because they’re like ‘you have to be something’ and actually I don’t. I’m just going to concentrate on mathematics instead!

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